MEN’S WORK

In our culture there is such a heavy burden placed on men. Boys and men are told to be “stoic and self-reliant”. Whilst these are great qualities, they can stop men asking for help.

The fact that suicide continues to be the leading cause of death in Australian males aged 15-49 indicates a vital need for a different approach to ‘being a man’ in our society.

Men’s Work: Getting out of the head, into the body

Men’s Work transforms confusion, anger, shame and pain into purpose, healing and mastery.

Men’s work is different to women’s work. With women, there’s an emphasis on what’s felt and experienced, and then validating that feeling and experience. To be witnessed is very helpful for them.

Whilst this can be helpful for men, their primary need is generally to get out of their head and into their body, into direct felt experience. Whatever a man is experiencing internally, he struggles to get out of his head.

Men need to feel their feelings, and this requires facilitating them to move into their emotional body; to feel and then handle the intensity of what is carried, or needing to be dealt with, when he does start to feel.

Talk therapy alone will only keep a man in his head, in his thought process, where he may have been mulling over the same problem for years!

Men don’t need to be over validated; they need solutions.

The foundation of men’s work is formulating practical strategies and support for the development of competencies in areas they’re struggling with.

At Connection Counselling we streamline ways of developing communication, if that’s an area where there’s room to build confidence, whether in intimate relationships, sexually or setting boundaries.

This may involve developing a new skillset, especially if there is a struggle with self-confidence, self-worth, or value.

Working with shame & the inner critic

A key focus at Connection Counselling is working with a man’s shame and inner critic. Every man has an inner dialogue, and sometimes it is aggressive, volatile, and hostile. They may speak to themselves harshly, and the level of shame that’s carried can be debilitating.  

Working through their shame and developing a healthy level of inner dialogue is key to our approach to men’s work.

When men suffer in silence, everyone suffers. Without guidance and support, the result can be broken families, violence, addictions, physical and mental illness, and suicide.

SESSIONS

Rowan’s counselling sessions are based in the Melbourne suburb of Elwood, and also available online.

PAUL SAYS…

I first came to Rowan an angry, confused man. She has helped me see the love in myself and shown me how to be a real man.

The biggest thing I take away from Rowan’s sessions is a far better understanding of women and myself.

I now have more awareness of my life than ever before.

ROB SAYS…

Rowan Bradley's work as a yoga instructor and natural healer is very unique. She heals as she works and steers you in the right direction and offers sound advice from posture to realigning thought processes to making the vital changes in your life to pursue your dreams and ambitions.

Whether you see her for a yoga healing or for a spiritual healing her work is powerful and I have seen it change many patients of mine and she has helped advance me in my wonderful work I do.

It is all about making the choice to re align and then working with Rowan to allow your body, mind and spirit to be flexible to adjust so that we allow the divine to move us closer to our dream and aspirations and soulmate.

An amazing woman with pure healing energy. She will change/enhance your life, as she has mine!